Have you ever been offended? I’m sure you have. Everyone, at one time or another, has had offensive words spoken to them. The Lord put it on my heart to talk to you about this subject because I was recently tested in this area and I want to share what I learned.
Affirm who you are in Christ
When offensive words are spoken, what follows are feelings of fear, shame, anger, embarrassment and worthlessness. To battle these emotions you must remind yourself of who you are in Christ. One scripture that helped me is Deuteronomy 28:13:
And the Lord shall make thee the head, and not the tail; and thou shalt be above only, and thou shalt not be beneath;
Several times I spoke the affirmation in this verse. I am the head and not the tail. I am above only and not beneath.
Don’t let your emotions take over
Here is an underlying truth to keep in mind when offensive words are flung at you:
These emotions don’t matter. They don’t dictate who I am. Neither do the hateful words that were spoken. Keep this truth in front of you consistently.
Walk in boldness
The person that spoke offensive words to me has a bullying spirit. The Lord used this situation to help me rise above past fears developed as a child. I can remember getting bullied in elementary school. I let those kids intimidate me. That attitude has remained with me through part of my adulthood. But now it was time to put away childish things. The Lord was calling for me to have courage. I called forth the spirit of boldness. I refused to roll up into a ball as in the past.
Put up boundaries
Two friends encouraged me to approach this person against my better judgment. This person has always been unpleasant towards me. However, because I hadn’t experienced their meanness in a long time, I let my guard down. Big mistake.
If God is telling you to reach out for the purpose of ministering to that person, then by all means go ahead. But if you if it’s just about you wanting someone to like you, that isn’t going to bring life at all. In fact, sometimes it’s just not a good idea to communicate with certain people. Stop setting yourself up to be knocked down. So what if that person has a problem with you? Pray for that person and focus on the people in your life that love you.
Forgive and pray
I have prayed for this person and will continue to do so. Each time I think about their offensive words, I bless this person. I ask God to deliver and heal them.
Dealing with offensive words is not easy. But God will help you rise above the effects of meanness. Put the steps above into practice and I know you will overcome because that’s what you are, an overcomer! You are destined to win.